What you Don’t Know (Lulu Wang) is a podcast of a family who hid a grandmother’s stage 4 cancer diagnosis from her. Lulu Wang talks about how she didn’t totally agree with her family’s decision to hide it from her and the way they did it.
I must make difficult choices every day to lie to my two oldest children to keep their little hearts from being broken. Me and my two oldest children’s father were in a long relationship before we came to quits. He wasn’t growing up as fast as I needed him to, so we went our separate ways. In result, our two children were left wondering what was happening. My son was 5 and my daughter was a little over a year old when we split. He wasn’t supportive and didn’t help financially with the kids. I pretty much was on my own from the start. I just hoped one day he was going to wake up and change. Well that day never came. Being the person that I am, I just kept on moving. Nothing was changing for me, but it was for my kids. They didn’t have their father around. No phone calls, no visits, nothing. He just picked up and left and wanted nothing to do with them. I constantly would have to make up excuses for him, explaining to my children why he wasn’t around. As the years passed, he came around when he felt like it. I know I should have stopped it from the start because of the inconsistency but I just wanted my kids to be happy. He would take them maybe one or two weekends out of the year and made them promises that he never kept. It was getting old. But again, I had to pick up the slack and make up some excuses as to why he was not doing what he said he was going to do. Today my oldest kids are soon to be 11 and soon to be 7. Nothing has changed. Same stories and more lies that I must come up with. Sometimes I wonder if I’m doing the right thing by trying to protect their little hearts. But one day they will see what it really is and see that why I have been trying to cover their father for their own protection.
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My Name is Margaret (Maya Angelou) is a story about a black girl who worked for a white woman that got fed up with the constant belittling. She challenged authority as stood her ground so that she would be noticed.
Did you agree with Margaret's choice to break the casserole dish and two green glass cups? I would agree with Margaret. Enough is enough. In that time period blacks didn't stand their ground and try to be noticed because of the consequences that they feared. But Margaret could no longer take anymore. Miss Glory told her that Mrs. Cullinan had once given her a different name as well. They called her "Hallelujah". Miss Glory explained to Margaret that they tend to rename the blacks for their own convenience. I would never let anyone belittle me nor would I be able to stay quite. In my opinion she did the right thing. She stood up for what she believed was right. I also would have been extremely pissed off too that Mrs. Cullinan truly knew her name and continued to call her Mary, even after the fact that Margaret felt sorry for her, for that she couldn't have any children of her own, and her husband had children with a black woman. She was able to stand up to an authority figure. When have you made an important choice to either resist or not resist oppression, challenge the status quo, or refuse to obey an authority figure? There have been many instances where I had refused to obey an authority figure. In this case the authority figure was my father. I grew up in a very strict household. I was the oldest daughter so I knew I had it coming. My father came to the United States from Mexico when he was an early teenager. His cultures and parenting was quite different than people who lived here in the states. He was a bit “old school” as I would call it.My father didn’t really let me go out with my friends or do things most teenagers did. As a kid I wasn’t allowed to play with boys and so on. I hated it. All of my friends could go to the movies and hang out with each other while I wasn’t. I started to be a typical teenager and I started to rebel. I would do as I pleased and worry about the consequences later. He started to get even stricter with me and took the phone away. That was my main freedom was the phone. Things got even more heated when I couldn’t get along with my step-mother. She was constantly trying to turn my father against me, and it usually worked. I couldn’t take anymore. At that time in my life I believed I knew it all. I packed up my things and left. I was free in my eyes. My father couldn’t change my mind. I finally stood up for myself. Rosita CarbajalI will use this blog to write about my course requirements and what ever my heart desires.
These quotes that I chose were interesting. It kind of expresses the writers personality in some way. My quotes reflect to my style of writing and how I like to get into my writing process. It's fun to see different writers perspective on writing. Teaching Writing As a Process Not a Product (Don Murray)
Quote #1 “There is always magic in this for me, and wonder because I do not know what I am going to say until it is said. The writer within is always a stranger, with a grin, a top hat and long, quick fingers which produce what was not there before. I shall never know this magic man well, although he has been within me for sixty years. He entices me with his capacity to surprise.” Don Murray Quote #2 "The student should have the opportunity to write all the drafts necessary for him to discover what he has to say on this particular subject. Each new draft, of course, is counted as equal to a new paper. You are not teaching a product, you are teaching a process." Don Murray Quote #3 "The writing process itself can be divided into three stages: pre-writing, writing, and re-writing." Don Murray The Daily Writing Routines of Great Writers (Maria Popova) Quote #1 “I write my stories in the morning, my diary at night.”( Anaïs Nin) Quote #2 “If groggy, type notes and allocate, as stimulus. If in fine fettle, write.”(Henry Miller) Quote #3 “The desk in the room, near the bed, with a good light, midnight till dawn, a drink when you get tired, preferably at home, but if you have no home, make a home out of your hotel room or motel room or pad: peace.”(Jack Kerouac) Bird by Bird: Some Instructions on Writing and Life (Anne Lamott) Quote #1 “Writing a novel is like driving a car at night. You can see only as far as your headlights, but you can make the whole trip that way.” (E.L Doctorow) Quote #2 “It’s not like you don’t have a choice, because you do—you can either type of kill yourself”(Writer Undisclosed) Quote #3 “We’re still pretty far apart. I’m looking for a six-figured advance, and their refusing to read the manuscript.” Quotes for My Writing Process “Quiet and dark is where to stay.” “The more personal, the more interest engaged the reader will be.” “Practice makes perfect, never give up.” Proust Questionnaire.
__1.__What is your idea of perfect happiness? People tend to take their health for granted. I think perfect health would be an ideal happiness. __2.__What is your greatest fear? Of loosing a child. That is any parent's greatest fear. __3.__What is the trait you most deplore in yourself? I tend to doubt myself often and i hate that. __4.__What is the trait you most deplore in others? That some people are not as caring as they should be. __5.__Which living person do you most admire? My father. I have always looked up to him as a child and I still do as an adult. __6.__What is your greatest extravagance? I would say food. My step mom was a great cook so my expectations are set pretty high. __7.__What is your current state of mind? Confident. I fell like I am doing the right thing in going back to school. __8.__What do you consider the most overrated virtue? I would say chastity. __9.__On what occasion do you lie? There should be no occasion to lie __10.__What do you most dislike about your appearance? My height __11.__Which living person do you most despise? No body that I can really think of __12.__What is the quality you most like in a man? honesty __13.__What is the quality you most like in a woman? I don’t know I guess I would say self worth __14.__Which words or phrases do you most overuse? There you go __15.__What or who is the greatest love of your life? My 4 beautiful children __16.__When and where were you happiest? There are too many times when I was happy to pick one __17.__Which talent would you most like to have? The ability to sing and play an instrument __18.__If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be? My patience level with my kids __19.__What do you consider your greatest achievement? Becoming a mother __20.__If you were to die and come back as a person or a thing, what would it be? Maybe a millionaire, just to get a sense of that life __21.__Where would you most like to live? I’m not sure yet. I haven’t traveled much __22.__What is your most treasured possession? My children's locks of hair __23.__What do you regard as the lowest depth of misery? __24.__What is your favorite occupation? I loved working at the bank __25.__What is your most marked characteristic? My smile __26.__What do you most value in your friends? That my true friends have never changed even after years of being apart __27.__Who are your favorite writers? __28.__Who is your hero of fiction? __29.__Which historical figure do you most identify with? __30.__Who are your heroes in real life? My father and my sister __31.__What are your favorite names? Pierre, Annalise __32.__What is it that you most dislike? I hate repetitive liars __33.__What is your greatest regret? Leaving home at a young age __34.__How would you like to die? In my sleep __35.__What is your motto? |
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